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Ready to
feel more intense pleasure than you’ve ever imagined? This one simple
flex will transform your sex life. |
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Here,
the story of Rachel, 32, married six years, who swears by
it. |
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Sex?
Oh, it’s fine (most of the time).
That’s
what Rachel, like
a lot of women, used to
say before she discovered a tiny exercise that changed everything. “I
always felt very confident in my ability to please my husband. But when it
came to my own body, pleasure was a mystery. Sometimes—if we were too
tired to give it the extra effort—I wouldn’t climax at all.”
So
when a friend told her that these pubococcygeus (PC) flexes, called Kegel
exercises (which involve nothing more than squeezing that hold back
urine), could make sex absolutely amazing, Rachel hit the Internet, eager
to learn more. “I found out how easy it is to strengthen my muscles on
my own,” she says. “And just for fun, I also bought the Kegelmaster
2000 ($98
.95 at www.mykm.com)).
It’s like a Stair-Master for your PC muscles.” After only three weeks,
Rachel noticed a huge improvement in her orgasms: “They felt a lot
better, and I had them more often.”
A
bigger big 0
But
the best was yet to come (literally!): “Just two months after I started
the Kegel exercises, I began having these really intense all-body orgasms
that were triggered by
his thrusts,” she
reports. “With this new kind of orgasm, there’s a pleasurable pressure
that starts building, and as it increases, I feel like I can’t keep
going because it’s too intense. But once I give in to that overwhelming
feeling and continue, that’s when I have these amazing, well, body
spasms—and it just feels good beyond words.”
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Female
ejacu—what?
These
all-body orgasms were about to get even more intense. “I was a little
freaked out when I had my first
ejaculatory orgasm,”
Rachel admits.
“At first, I thought I was peeing during sex, but I was wrong. I was
actually producing this clear fluid after having very intense waves of
multiple climaxes.”
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“Two
months after I started the Kegel
exercises.
I began having
intense
all-body
orgasms. |
And
recent research confirms Rachel’s experience. “About 10 percent of
women ejaculate when they have orgasms~” explains Beverly Whipple,
Ph.D., R.N., coauthor of The G
Spot (1983). “For many years~ women actually thought something was
wrong with them when they ejaculated,” Whipple says. “Doctors would
even do surgery to stop incontinence. Now we know that this fluid isn’t
urine. We’ve also discovered that women who ejaculate enjoy the
sensation. This is
just another fun,
healthy, normal part of having sex.”
Rachel’s
husband, Dan, who loves the new wet-and-wild experience, would agree. And
Rachel observes that tapping into her buried treasure of pleasure has had
payoffs for their relationship. “Now that I’m having these orgasms
regularly, our emotional connection has become stronger, more meaningful
and more complete.” |
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Kegel
yourself
deliriously happy |
Intensify
your orgasms—
and improve your
below-the-belt health —
with this one little move
Next
time you’re In the ladies’ room, squeeze the muscles that stop the
flow of urine. There! You’ve just done a Kegel, a flex of
the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles that supportively crisscross underneath
your reproductive organs. To strengthen the muscle group (and reap the
benefits listed here), simply squeeze your PC muscles fore count of
three; then relax for three, recommends Lonnie Garfield Barbach, Ph.D.,
author of Far Each Other Sharing
Sexual Intimacy (Signet, 2001)
Start
by doing 10 three-second squeezes two or three times a day. Practice
while you’re waiting at red lights, folding laundry or at a boring
lunch with your mother-in-law (she’ll never guess why you’re smiling
About a week after doing the exercises, you’ll start reaping these
benefits:
the muscles
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Start
with 10
three-second squeezes
twice a day. |
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Healthier
reproductive
organs
“Strong
PC muscles lead to increased blood flow to the entire pelvic region,” explains
Howard Glazer, Ph.D., clinical
associate professor of psychology
at Cornell University Medical College/New York Presbyterian
Hospital and
coauthor of The
Vulvadynia Survival
Guide (New
Harbinger Publications, 2002). “And more blood flow means that tissues
are getting the nutrients
they need to renew themselves and to ward off problems, such as
menstrual cramps and pregnancy
complications.” |
Intense
all-body orgasms
There
are two different kinds of female climaxes: the clitoral and the G-spot,
and strong PC muscles play a major role in both types A clitoral
ride your own pleasure wave.
climax involves stimulation of the small pea-like structure just above the
labia. “Most women will reach orgasm easily this way with manual or
oral stimulation,” Glazer says.
Meanwhile, G-spot
orgasms are still up for debate.
Recent studies have
shown that the
“spot,” which is located about an inch and a half
inside the belly-side wall of
the vagina, might actually be an extension o
internal clitoral tissue. In any case, “when this area
is stimulated during intercourse or even with fingers, women
report that the ensuing orgasms are
deep, internal, full-body sensations,” Glazer adds. And the key to
bringing on your own biggie? Flex those strengthened PC muscles as he
thrusts to bring your G-spot into
contact with his penis and ride your own pleasure wave
back |
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